Bondage for beginners: what’s your Safe Word?

The practice of bondage, being tied up or physically restrained, is an extremely sexually satisfying choice. It’s sexy, naughty, a little scary and very inventive. It’s a great way to release all your pent-up energy and express your inner self with a trusted partner.

Bondage, however, should always be safe. It’s one thing to play at being in distress and even experience a tolerable amount of pain, but it’s something very different to actually put yourself or someone else in harm’s way.

For this reason, it’s important to keep in mind a few important tips and ideas on keeping it safe while still having a really sexy time.

The Key Word is Consent

The most important rule of bondage is that it is to be consensual. Bondage should only be practiced by consenting adults who are allowed to change their minds or put a stop to the action at any time. Remember, just because someone agreed to something does not mean they can’t change their mind. And just because someone has agreed to something before, does not mean they are always going to consent.

Now that the first rule of any sexual or even non-sexual relationship has been established, we can move on to a very important safety rule in bondage. Have a safe word!

The importance of a Safe Word in Bondage

A safe word, or safe action (which can come in really handy if you are using any type of gag, such as a ball gag and a person cannot verbally communicate)is extremely important. It’s something that can be seen or done that clearly states when the submissive partner (the one being tied up) has had enough, is in too much pain, or simply wants to call it quits.

Establishing a safe word can help the submissive relax and give control over to their trusted partner, because they know they have the ultimate say if they need anything to stop. It’s really important to stop as soon as the submissive partner uses the safety word. You must stop the first time they use it. You don’t wait for a second or third time. If your partner looses trust in you, you may never get it back, and the fun will stop for good.

you can enjoy your bondage practice

Safe Toys and Tools

Another issue of safety is the equipment you use. Having quality tools and toys is crucial for a safe, comfortable, sexy and satisfactory experience. That’s why it’s important to invest in toys and tools that are specific for adult play time and not take your chances on whatever you have lying around at home.

One of the basic tools for bondage is rope. You can use nylon, hemp, multifilament or several other types of materials. You want to make sure the rope won’t shrink, stretch, or splinter and remember that some materials will need conditioning. Getting a rope that is marked for bondage use is your best bet.

Another common (probably more common than rope, since many different couples commonly use them) are handcuffs. Again, you want to avoid the common police cuffs that can scrape and cut you. Instead, opt for adult handcuffs that are meant to be worn comfortably for long periods of time without causing pain or damage.

Now that you know the most important safety factors, you can enjoy your bondage practice. Just remember to have open communication, patience and consideration for your partner.

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